Where have the good Doms gone?

[DowntownAmber]

*sets two pennies on the table*

There are plenty of posts littering this forum where the particulars of "safe, sane, and consensual" are hotly debated. This, frankly, doesn't fall under any of those categories. It is simply a matter of personal preference and whatever floats your proverbial boat.

It's like debating whether you feel better going out dressed conservitively or in a mini-skirt.

If a sub feels better that they have a collar on, even if it's only for the sake of show, then they feel better and all the more power to them. If it makes them more comfortable in chat or posting on the forums, fabulous. We all like to see people participate so whatever it takes to get them out there, I guess.

Personally, I think just putting "not looking" or "here for friendships only" is just as effective in deterring the predators and much less likely to turn away an honorable Dom just looking to be friends or a mentor (many of these decent guys are the ones that won't approach the collared subs).

For all practical purposes, I just doubt that collars of convenience will actually keep a sub immune to unwanted advances - the types of folks that "whisper" without consent and pursue at random are rarely deterred by a collar.

Predatory "Doms" will also likely know the collar is fake just by the reputation of the Master that has handed it out. You can't announce to subs that you'll collar them without being their Master and not expect a few of the Doms to notice too.

And in the case of someone badgering one of these "collared" subs, I have to wonder what will be done to protect them anyway? If there's an issue a mod needs to be involved no matter how you slice it. Even a a couple in a real D/s relationship has to go to a mod if there is online harrassment.

That beig said, there is still no "harm" in doing it. It's not hurting or offending anyone, and it's making someone feel good for awhile. Yay for joy and happiness whatever its source.

*throws down another couple pennies*

That was a least a four cent piece of my mind...