Body Size & Shape

[IAmCanadian]

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a fat person?

Physically, I am repelled by a fat person (though that terms seems harsh). From time immemorial human beings have been conditioned by nature to pursue and attempt to mate with the most "fertile looking" females. This insures that good genes get passed on down the line. I understand that this is a very pragmatic view but it jibes with how I feel and how my body tends to respond. When I see an hourglass shape, the swell of breasts, glowing skin, luxurious hair and other qualities indicative of beauty and good genes, I am very attracted. I know it sounds cruel, but...there is a lot of science behind this. Human beings are like any other creatures. As much as we can claim to be programmed by magazines like Maxim to accept one female body type as the gold standard for desirability, the truth is that Maxim is the proof of our programming rather than the cause of it. If the human race were inclined to be attracted to overweight people, we would be a race of extremely overweight beings by now, after a thousand generations of that bias.

I have had burgeoning online relationships end quite painfully because I wasn't attracted once the time came to take the next step and see what the other looked like. Painful, yes- but trying to supress tens of thousands of years of instinct is even more painful. In such cases I'm always careful to let them down as gently as possible. Though the question wasn't phrased to include this, I can't help but offer the caveat that a huge percentage of so-called attractive women tend to have unworkable amounts of self-esteem, rendering them very poor submissives, at least for my purposes. On the flip side of the coin, I have found that many women with body issues lack self-esteem and so are more natural submissives.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a thin person?

If by thin you mean shapely and attractive, then yes. If by thin you mean as unreasonably thin as the fat person from the above question is unreasonably fat, the answer is no, for the same reason discussed above.

What body type attracts you most?

The fertile-looking female type that my mind is programmed to pursue.

How have your own body issues affected your love/sex life?

I think it's only pragmatic to judge oneself partially by the attractiveness of one's mate. This sounds like something out of National Geographic, but part of me feels like getting into a relationship with an overweight woman is akin to giving up- admitting that I don't have what it takes to attract a mate (preferably a submissive) who is attractive to me. As a result, though, I'm still single- so I guess I paid the price. On at least three occasions I've turned down chances to delve further into relationships because of the body type of a prospective partner. But that wasn't the question.

My own body issues have sometimes hindered my love and sex life as well. I'm not overweight, but my inability to find the perfect woman for me has sometimes made me wonder if, for some reason, I'm just not attractive to the opposite sex.

The last word I want to say on the subject is that there's a sort of sliding scale in play here, at least for me. The more perfect a woman is in terms of wit, kindness, uninhibitedness and sexual compatibility, the more physical flaws I'm willing to overlook. For perfect sexual compatibility I'd be willing to overlook quite a lot. Not that I expect to ever find that.

- FS