Oh sweetie,

the begining is allways hard, i cant be as open with my way of life with my own family, i know reading about bdsm in various books and publications really helped me as the more i learned the more i grew into my submission

many people have strong oppinions about online relationships, i know they can be a great way to explore what kinds of things you like safely as opposed to running out and trying them in real life,

alltough i see a lot of online only relationships and or short "pairings" some of them like our sites administrators Torq & delia really inspired hope in me that online relationships can and do successfully proceed to "real life"

i do however, especially for a novice person strongly reccomend NOT setteling down with any online dom/domme that would restrict your access to information by not allowing you to explore all available rescources, (such as this site etc) i have seen some people restricted access in this manner online, especially when it comes to speaking with other people in the community including role plays etc and it is a clear sign the prospective dominant is actually insecure in thier own knowledge base and or threatened by the idea that you will go off with someone else and or learn somthing that contradicts thier personal views

basically i would advise avoiding submission to any that want to limit your knowledge base

i reccomend patience, read the threads here in the forums, there is a lot of useful information, you will be surprised at the diversity involved,

also some book stores have some really good scources of information, even at Barnes and Nobles we have an erotic/educational literature section since working there i have been spending more and more time in it lol(availability depending on the local laws in your area)

personally i found that a lot of information was hidden from plain site in works of fiction : i reccomend anything written by (John Norman in his Chronicals of Gor series) alltough its a fantsy/scifi series it has some wonderfully bueatiful views on Dom/sub relationships, the (Story of "O") is of course another classic, i really like Anis Nin as well as a lot of other works

for tutorials of a more technical nature i would defer to the many people here that have found actuall books on those subjects, more are printed every day

there are also some online rescoures listed in the links in the "other glosseries" section of the forums, google and boolean serches can also net you lots of useful things despite being hard to shift through

as allmost all of my own knowlege in technical areas was gained in real life, the hard way and at more than some risk at times i cant really add to much in that department outside of what i spoke of above

PLUS> a great fun way to try out different aspects of this way of life may just be the task/taskee thread, which used to be the bdsm academy, if exploring your submissive side the tasks provided may be very self enlightening as well as exciting (winks

as a member of the H&HSC and Abuse Support Sancturary i take mentorship seriously and just like the rest of the staff and many others here i am allways willing to lend a hand, so feel free to pm me

good luck
hugs and kissess
denuseri