WHy is IT?

[Ozme52]

Snowflake, I think, nailed the big one: TRUST. A number of the posts prior to mine expound on this as well, so I won't flog the expired equine here. Simply, it's a scary world out there and BDSM is a dangerous spice to the already dodgy life of dating and relationships. J-Go and I were r/l partners before we were ever a D/s couple, and even we progressed very slowly through the stages of our BDSM development.

The only other point I'd like to add is that, although this is a BDSM themed website, we subs are more than that single facet of our being. Yes, I am submissive. However, I am also a very busy working professional, an occasional actress, a theatre junkie and a traveling writer. I love photography and cooking, dogs, and I enjoy hunting and fishing. Yes, I want a Dom. I can throw a dart on this site and hit any number of them that would fit my kink bill. Great, they fit my Lifestyle, but do they fit my life? If all you're after is cyber, great, very little of that matters because if you don't like what I do or what I have to say beyond play, no problem, flip the computer off when we're done. IRL? Sorry, you're going to have to be more of a real person and not simply a distracting fantasy and that takes time.

Regards, Amber.

Very well put

Yes! Very succinct. Very true.