WHy is IT?

[hopperboo]

does take alot of knowing someone online like a month or two months worth, maybe more depending on how often you two chat online as well, before one would actually consider and feel comfortable in doing so for a real life meet.

If you think of it from a girl's point of view, wouldnt you want to be able to fully trust a Dom and know him well enough that you know that when you meet him in real life for the first time you wouldnt be kidnapped and taken to some dark room and used by an infinity amount of guys?

Unfortunately for girls, there are much more dangers in meeting guys online for real life encounters and hey I would be and have been previously scared off by girls wanting to meet me in real life after Ive been talking to them for like 30 mins on msn.

Wonderful post. Nothing makes me run faster than a person who expects to meet me after a few minutes of chatting online. I am a very cautious person by nature and if I get a 'feeling' about someone I will not meet them. (i.e. If they bring up meeting within 5 minutes - that terrifies me).

It is very hard for submissives to take the plunge by themselves. But I don't think all the submissives here are the problem. It sounds from the many posts I have seen you make, that your own approach might be the real issue; that or a lack of patience.

I find it funny when I hear so called dominants claim that they sit back and let the submissives flock to them. Especially the one's that have jack shit going for them.

I agree with this too. It takes me a bit to gain the courage (and the ability to trust that I am not going to be kidnapped, raped and thrown in a ditch) for me to meet the other person. I get scared even meeting in a public place. I am very well aware that I am no match for a man if I did indeed feel threatened and needed to get away...so I am careful how I go about meeting men.

Then again everyone tells me I worry to much in general so maybe I am over analyzing just a nice person.

I don't like it when men sit back and wait for me to run over to them...(IRL or online)...I am pretty shy with new people and they'll be waiting a long time if they are expecting that. Plus, I like to be chased. (Don't tell the hardcore feminists or they'll take my bras and burn them. *Tear*).





I use those reasons to back out of meeting, like annie said, with an overly pushy person.

I had plans to meet a guy (after a bit talking online and a lot talking on the phone) and I ended up backing out. I had a serious family emergency to help with and I let him know I was going to have to change the day of our date, gave him the reason etc.... He called me twice a day for a week. That's after I asked him to please not call for a little bit. (I had told him that I'd be at the hospital day in and day out). It made me very nervous and I have since cut off contact with him. Someone must have been watching over me.