i truly believe that this whole question breaks down to one main answer with a possible few different but not quite as strong..

The answer being TRUST..

It may be a small word when you look at it but it is a huge thing to build that takes a very long time, especially when it comes to this situation..

I mean look at the risks that the sub is taking.. not just a date or skydiving as Logic put.. she is risking her life and putting it in your hands to do as you please... I mean even an ex con ...a murderer can act nice.. but when bound she is totally out of control wide open to anything you had in mind... and yes i have seen what can happen first hand on vids on the net.. Some guys are into lets tie her up and kill her as she cums... as some believe it is the strongest orgasm a woman will ever have.. Others get off watching them hang by a noose begging for their lives.. Mind you i do not agree or like any of these movies but as a Mod/Admin on other forums i have seen them.. We refer to them a snuff movies.. And they are to be removed instantly...

It takes a lot of time to build the trust needed to put yourself in front of a person tied and ready for anything and to be able to say "i know he will not go past my limits...I trust him... Not just a few conversations on the net and in private... It takes time a lot of time and then for the first few meets would at least want it to be in public places like a fet party after a meet or two at a bar or for coffee or lunch..

It would also help to hear from others what you are like in person,, It would give a person a bit of security to hear from another that they had a good time but more importantly if you could be trusted..

You keep mentioning marriage ... and to some it is not a problem. others want you all to themselves without the baggage... but if you are .. may i ask would you be doing this behind your wife's back??? and yes if you were broken up i would want to know the whys.. I mean if you were convicted for severely beating your wife i think they would want to know...

Some on here want to just play on line i am sure until they know what it is all about.. Many are young and still learning and don't know what to expect from a Dom.. like what are punishments and what would be expected and what limits others have... so they know that a Dom is not asking to much of them...

And yes there are some that are just to afraid to take the plunge they say i want to .. but when push comes to shove they back away in fear...

And i am sure there are some that just want this .. to have an online Dom.. to spice up their lives without the hassles of it going beyond and reaching into R/L.. That just want to live the fantasy..

Logic1 the main reason i would want to and be willing to meet you .. not only have you shown what kind of Dom you would be just but the month of talking we have shared.. but the fact we have shared ups and downs in both our lives as friends.. You have shown me to many times your soft caring heart and your sub is so lucky to have you ...But it has taken over a year for me to be able to say that and a lot of trial and tribulations you have helped me deal with and a few you allowed me to help you with that has built that trust Sir..

That is the kind of trust i think most are looking for

Hope i have helped and not confused you more DomCT Sir... and i hope one day you can find that sub you are looking for..


Just my opinion

Huggs
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