Quote Originally Posted by mastersgem View Post
Two things to Tom's favor - first, damn I wish I could once meet a man who wanted to have sex everyday and everywhere haha! Most of my relationships have failed and mostly because of sex (I wanted lots and varied; they didn't)

I'm not the kind of gurl who wants the "lay still and think of England" kind of relationship and yet that's what all my relationships turn into. I'm hoping that a BDSM relationship will be different in that regard and show me that I'm not highly oversexed or unusual in my want of plenty of sex

Also, sex is on so many levels in our day to day life, it's really too bad that most people miss the smaller nuances of it
I've had relationships that have turned into that as well. I'm really touchy about having my fetishes rejected. It's not rational in any way. If my perverted advances get rejected, (by the woman I love) I feel rejected in a way that's way over-exaggerated. No matter how much I understand it... it's simply they way I work. Since I haven't been able to change this I've simply had to deal with it. Relationships with women who aren't always game for sex... I've ended and moved on. I've lost a few great women like that. But it would have been pure torture for my soul to keep them going. What it did was basically kill my desire to have sex with them... while at the same time penting up my horniness to a level where I'd have sex with anything moving that vaguely resembled a humanoid. That is not a healthy mental place to be. Sure, we had sex anyway... but it was the kind of sex you have with somebody to fill a quota. I'm sure it sucked as much for them as for me.

What I've done to avoid this happening is to be very very clear on what I want and what I expect. Because I'm so touchy about this... and it is really a handicap for me... I'm very well aware that it puts stress on my partner .... so I do plenty of things to compensate.

But I don't think she thinks its that much of a problem She seems really happy about all my twisted perversions.