That very well could be. My Master/husband pointed out to me why having a Personal Trainer has been so good for me. He said I like it when strong men order me around and tell me what to do. And the funny thing is he is right. I catch myself thinking that I need to do such and such to make my trainer happy. But I have no sub ties to him. I would never get on my knees for him or call him 'Sir'. That could also be why I have Dom feelings towards him. I have to prove to myself that I would not be submissive for him. I have found it quite easy though in r/l to be assertive. The only one I want to serve and make truly happy is my Master. Being sub to Him is a pure expression of love for me. He is the only one I truly love. I really appreciate your point of view. It has helped me see things differently.