We checked into the Academy. Stripey filled out the questionaire (which was very useful information for me). But when We started looking at the setup, it doesn't appear to be the right place for Us. We have been married for 12 years, and in this lifestyle increasingly over the last two years. I could never allow her to accept tasks from others, and I could never feel good about tasking others myself. She is my slave, but We belong to each other. Your advice may be good for others, but it will not work for Us. Thanks anyway!