imho id say no matter how hard it may feel dump him,it sounds like he's had a little dabble and thats the end of it as far as he's concerned.

i dont mean to be rude or offend you sorry but he just sounds like a user.

it doesnt sound like you were together too long so hopefully it shouldnt hurt you too much,unfortunately all too often subs particularly those new to it all find themselves getting too attached way too soon the the first Dom that comes along thats not a criticism and it's very understandable it can be scary at first discovering new things about yourself feeling you're that little bit different etc so it's very easy to be led along.

like TomOfSweden suggested find some-one with a little more experience or some-one who's willing to learn along with you and take things slowly,rome wasnt built in a day as they say there's no great rush,it worries me a little when you say it was your first time and was pretty extreme,ANYTHING that seems extreme to you and your partner has no real experience of stay clear let things build up over time.

obviously i dont know what you did but if things were fairly extreme then that sounds a little odd as most Doms with any sense wouldnt attempt anything too risky or harsh to begin with for their sake as well as yours,in reality if they were inexperienced they'd be just as nervous as you,are you sure he wasnt just giving you a line?

what do you mean by he freaked out? surely if he was so freaked he would have stopped it? and not wait until afterwards.

and if anyone ever does wants to push you into anything too quickly then alarm bells should be ringing loud and clear.


dont take much notice of the crap you read on the net,much of it is just hyped up rubbish from people who have absolutely no knowledge of anything,take any offer of 'training' or 'mentoring' particularly online with a pinch of salt just use your common sense and the experience you've had to guide you.

ive not been here too long and unlike most sites ive stuck with it because unlike most it does have something to offer,not that my opinions so important really (im not that conceited!) lol but id say there's a good few members here who are genuine and will give you straight answers and advice,have a look around at some of the threads and you'll find that not everything is quite as many so-called lifestylers will tell you it is.

with regards to your question just go by what your instincts say,id say there already telling you something anyway or you wouldnt be posting this question.

i'll jump back off the soap box now sorry, i hope i havnt offended you.
theres a lot of nice people out there and a lot of fun to be had...so go and get it