Quote Originally Posted by lily27 View Post
I have the opposite opinion, and think it is better to meet someone sooner rather than later. I don't mean meet and play, just meet.
I agree too.
Of course, don't rush into anything or be unsafe, but...

Had I met him immediately I would have known he lied to me about everything he was- including his skin color (which I never understood.)

It can go both ways- rushing to meet someone can seem creepy, but constantly finding excuses to not meet up can (and I think usually are) truths trying to be protected as opposed to just being nervous.

I'm a firm believer in phone conversation before meeting anyone as well.

I've only met people online from dating sites- never a bdsm site- but am always more interested in meeting sooner rather than later. Also, just meet up in a public place for starters has always worked out for me.

Having the experience of creating a very emotional relationship through email and phone conversation, then having it all be deceit has left me with no desire to prolong reality ever again.