I am fairly new in the scene, but have definitely learned a couple of important things. First, Draco is right, always talk to your sub. A D/s relationship is not totally different from a vanilla one. Drusilla was right too, we are not mind readers and you shouldn't expect yourself to be. That comes with knowing someone for a while, just like any other relationship.

One other major thing I have found is roughly what MG said. If you are dominant it comes fairly naturally. Be yourself, and no matter what you do, do not try to be the stereotypical 'hollywood porn' Dom. If that's you it will happen, please don't force it because you think it is what you are supposed to be. It makes you look silly, just ask my last sub.

Lastly, don't be afraid to ask questions. Just because you are a Dom doesn't mean you know everything. Just because she is a sub doesn't mean her mind is useless. Which leads to my last thought, just because you are the Dom doesn't mean who and what she is as a person is worthless. The sub's personality defines as much of the relationship as yours does.

And with that, I'll stop now.