In my mind there is no doubt you have strong potential to become Dom. However, if and how you will realize that potential and what kind of dom you turn out to be is up to you.

The key word IMO is, as Aesop stressed – responsibility (the fact that you are asking question shows that you have it). Please remember – you might call her a toy but she is not one.

Other key words are inventiveness, perseverance and exploration.

In this case it is of little import that it is e-relationship. She IS opening up to you and following your orders - THAT is what matters.

If she liked buying ‘dirty’ magazines perhaps she will like buying toys, especially vibrating ones. I am sure you can think of suitable uses for them in unexpected situations (but please remember…. Public edge play is great; messing up her life is not.). If you cannot hold the remote think of game when and how the toy (or phone) be on or off.

Essays are great, so are stores. Have her write you a story/essay on edgy subject then explore it. Filling one of those long questionnaires could be very helpful if you haven’t done that. There will be surprises for both and it will give you new ideas where and how to push her. Ice and wax both are great! If you are unfamiliar with their uses have HER research it and report to you.

I like to use everyday situations and objects. Maybe tell her to buy ONE nice cucumber and one nice carrot… then use them. If you do remember to tell her to use condoms on them... generally think it out before issuing orders. But when you do .. stick to them.

All the best.

Wolffie