Are switches confused or is everybody else?

[MitchC]

Okay, I apologize for misunderstanding you, Moonraker.

To answer the real question you were asking, this is my view. You mentioned not understanding why some people think they are. I think there might be a couple of reasons. First, I think that stereotypes say that a man should be the dom. So, for some men, you might have them thinking: "Hmm, why do I enjoy this? Should I really? Is it really okay for me to enjoy being both sub and dom?"

Another reason, I think, is how they feel when placed in roles of both sub and dom. Some people enjoy both roles equally, while others enjoy one role more than the other. I think there might be thoughts by some people, that their BDSM experiences would be "better", and less complex, if they stuck to just one role of either dom or sub, and would be easier on their partners, especially in the case where they would dom, and have to ask a partner to sub, and the partner might not want to sub.

These are just a few thoughts. I dont know if you agree, but this is how I see it, Moonraker.

Mitch

[Moonraker]

Mitch

To an extent it was a rhetorical question. I have two views. Firstly the human tendency to pidgeon hole people or stereotype as you say. I can understand this, but stereotyping seems a bit strange coming out of a community considered by the world at large to perverted deviants who need their heads testing.

Secodly the view I came across on another thread that you can't be good at two things. The problem with that is there are many cases of people excelling in more than one field and also, if true so what. What's the problem if you enjoy playing the guitar as a pasttime but ain't very good at.

The confusion theory irks me a bit. Makes me feel like the "perverts" consideri me perverse ha ha.

PS - nobody disputed my comment that it was the the general view, I expected 'never heard anyone say that' responses.