Hi Miss Stacey and Legion,

I'm happy to be of help. It sounds like the two of you have given this a lot of thought.

Giving both of you time to adjust into your roles,
as well as giving Legion a grace period for practicing
behavior to be rewarded is a good idea.

I'm not one for punishments, however, sometimes they are needed. We don't punish ourselves if we are learning a new task and we fail. Instead, we learn from our mistakes, get up and try that task again. That's why it's important to know what behavior for which you are striving and it's much easier to say that you were successful in accomplishing it.

Your ideas of the jewlery and ribbon seem like an excellent place to begin, thank you again for suggesting them, is this how you started out with you sub?
We used the ribbon in some submissive tasks early on. After our first real life meeting, I gave Nat a collar to wear during our private time and a few other items so he could be more discreet when in public. Any one of those items signifies many things for us.

Early on, we also exchanged vows that we strive to honor daily. Here's the thread we started with more information on Nat and me:
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3419

Keep asking those questions, and don't be afraid to ask the doms for help, too.

To your success,

Ruby