One thing i have learned recently the hard way and i mean the hard way, and it took me about 3 years to learn it. Is do not compromise your integrity when it comes to BDSM.

That means several things. If you ahve a high grade session planned then do it. The only way you should not is if you feel your abilities are compromised. then in that case expalin what is going on and why, perhaps with some negotiation things can be wroked out.

By not compormising I also mean being true to yourself and your beliefs and ideals and standards. I am recovering grom a severe case of dom drop about 3 years worth actually. Where in order to make family happy (outside of my wife), I sacrificed some of my personality in toning down who i truoy am. The downside is both dannette and I suffered from it. the good news is i got a wake up call that is making me go back and re-evaluate who I am what I stand for, and really researching what I believe and stand for.

One other lessons I have learned as a parent that applies as a dom. If you tell someone yhou are going to do something do it. If you tell yourkid you will break their arm fi they do an action you ahve to break their arm or they will loose their resepct for yo0u. No i am not advocating abuse making a point albeit it extreme. If you tell someone your goign to do something you need to do it, In this lifestyle out word is outr bond, and if you do not keep your word you have broken a bond break enough bonds and trusty goes as well.

I hate punishing dannette it breaks my hear to but I have realzied for both of us to grow and for me to get beyond my dom drop and for her to becomen a better submissive.slave if i tell her i am going to punish her for somehting than IO had better make damn sure I do.

Sorry if it sounds like I am preaching or condeming not my intent but worked about a 20 hour day so is probably not the best time to psot this but wanted to get it done while it was fresh in my mind.
I also hope what I am trying to convey makes sense to more than just me at 3:00 AM.