Quote Originally Posted by Ruby
gs77,

Her_Joe is right on about taking is slow and protecting your relationship.

One of the biggest tasks ahead of you is separating the fantasy of what turns her and you on from how far you two are willing to go in reality.

For example, a gang bang may be a hot fantasy, and while your domming your wife, you can describe in naughty language what she would look like, how you'd let her be used and abused etc., you may not ever want to actually do that activity in real life.
Ruby,

gs77's concern might be fairly common--I know it is one of my concerns that what is hot and turns me on in my fantasies might turn out to be destructive of my relationship with my wife/Domme if we ever did some of them in real life. Your suggestion of describing a problematic fantasy while playing is an excellent alternative to actually doing it in real life.

Steve