I thought you were looking more for scene ideas to tie into TTC.

Well, to work it into your playtime, start slowly with your basic toys. Do LOTS of talking. I can tell you from experience as a newbie with an experienced(in fantasy) DH, we screwed up a lot in the beginning. I didn't really understand that BDSM enhances his love for me and gives me power. I thought it was because I was lacking something and he needed it to be turned on by me. Now that I "get it", it's a lot better, but we wasted years and had a lot of hurt feelings that can interfere with playtime still.

Does she look at porn, pics, stories, etc? I also got a lot out of reading books on the topic. They especially helped me to "get it". We have a lot of fun looking at the computer and talking about what we see, either individually or together.

good luck