Not so much that I'm shy, but we've had our share of bad pain oopsies that it seems easier to stick to the things we know. So then it comes to the point of "o, this again" and just doesn't trip the trigger. I think all long term relationships get stuck in a rut from time to time, even BDSM ones(though it takes longer, more things to try ). We're just in one.

Thanks for responding. It helps to talk about it to people that understand.

EAB