Most of us here are noobs, Drifter, and rely on the help of the several very experienced and helpful folk, like Ruby, who offer willing help.

I concur with albear about JT's Stockroom and offer the little I've learned:

I suggest not scrimping on your purchases as quality creates safety and comfort -- cuffs and collars, for example, are more comfortable and offer more security if they are substantial, and lined with a soft fabric that won't abrade. Such things are pricey but you will use them for a long time. (Hopefully! )

Adjustibility is also very desirable. Sizes change and, more important, subs have different threshholds. Of course, if you are talking about mere cosmetics, who cares?

Finally, I've found a number of good google information on making some of your own equipment, things like floggers and I found a spanking bench I will certainly put together.

Hope this helps.

her_Joe