The community doesn't help anymore because our society has become so acusitory and bound in litigation that we would rather be apathetic than help. No one wants to be accused of hurting someone else's child, you could be labeled a child abuser, or perhaps a sexual predator depending on the accusations. So it's no surprise to me that the mothers are not getting any of that community involvement.

Not sure how many here have deployed into a combat zone in our current military, but we are limited to two 15 minute phone calls per week. If you schedule the time, and your spouse goes to the family center on base you can get a short video conference.

On top of that, the spouses now have to wonder every day if it is their husband or wife who has been killed. It didn't used to be such a roller coaster, at least not since the Vietnam war.

It is just a shame that the children are the ones who get neglected as a result.