Yes, fae, I agree - we do all forget things. That can mean there is perhaps a little control lacking - the dom/me needs to pick up on it. Reminders shouldn't need to be too frequent. An ignored reminder should be punished, I think. But there can be more to it than that.

There are times (she says, remembering well) when subbies get rebelious. They might refuse outright to do things - or it may be more subtle - they might 'forget' to do things.

It could be for various reasons. It may very well be that they want their dom/me to lay down the law: they are just plain asking for more strict control. They may be asking for recognition, for the dom/me to show that they are actually taking notice of what the sub is doing for them, and that they appreciate it. A little praise can go a long way.

It may be that they are finding the tasks or something else too stressful, and are not able to talk about it themselves - they need some prod or another, some question, from their master/mistress, to allow them to talk; 'forgetting' to task is a way of highlighting the issue.

There may very well be other reasons - I mean, maybe they just plain don't like the task, it's just not something that falls into their wants and needs?

So - I guess it all comes back down to communication again.

Whichever way, reminding is good: asking them why they havn't done something first off is of course the place to start. I mean, did they actually forget, or do you assume that? Have you dug a little further?