Quote Originally Posted by whippedcream
My question is, for those of you who are experienced at that sort of thing, what are your feelings on scening with people you've just met?
While I'm only experienced with this sort of thing peripherally, here's a thought: talk to the dominant and study him. If your instincts tell you you're in the right hands, then you're probably in the right hands. If they tell you the danger is real, that wouldn't fall under safe or sane, so step back from it.

If he has trouble having a conversation about the scene in question without trying to find power over you as he's talking, my recommendation would be to walk away; the kind of dominant you want will have excellent self control to know when and where to begin and when to let you decide, and they don't mind working to establish trust before establishing dominance.

But again, your instincts are better than my advice, if you listen to them.

I think you already had your answer. But if the man in question has you curious, ask to see him with someone else. and then perhaps another day.