Nick I have found many diverse people on the net but you rarely get to meet women through a website and many online bdsm communities frown on using the personals to try to meet potential partners.

I know it defeats the object of having a profile but there is still a stigma around contacting someone you don't know through the personals section of a bdsm website.

It rarely results in rudeness but invariably you're memo is ignored and you will hear people bemoaning unsolicited contacts even if their profile says looking to meet.

It's funny this strange attitude does not exist on the t-girl sites I frequent and it is the opposite on gay websites where everyone is contacting each other.

Because of this I had to venture out of my comfort zone and actually get involved in the bdsm community for real and that is when it all narrows down and the rules start to be applied.

In the words of Jimmy Greaves...''It's a funny old game"