Quote Originally Posted by Romyrick View Post
I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years almost. She is very into BDSM, I've done what I can to satisfy that urge but she doesnt think its enough. Essentially she feels like I am acting and she says its not the same, she needs someone to actually feel the feelings associated with domination. I feel like I can do a good job but I need to know what this is all about mentally, I need a strong base understanding of domination. Can anyone help me? My relationship hinges on this.
Why don't you ask her? Does she know what she wants? Or is it just a vague feeling she has. If it is, then this might not really be her problem with you. The real problem may be much deeper.

But to go back to the original question. In my opinion being dominant is about bravery. Not being afraid to stick out and state your opinion. Not being afraid of failing. Not being afraid to listen to and take seriously opinions that might go against yours. Basically, being a good leader. The sex should follow quite naturaly from this.