[QUOTE=Lil One]Thanks chksng19. I actually had a very similar experience as your s/o. I was never a fan of anal. In hindsight (no pun intended), my only experience with it was clumsy half-drunk guys, little to no lube, and no warm-up whatsoever. When I met my guy 3 years ago, he said that anal was one of his favorite things. I cringed. He encouraged me to try. He went VERY slowly, used lots and lots of lube, used his fingers to help loosen me up, and never pushed until I was ready. WOW!!! What a difference! Now it's MY favorite thing. We often joke that he turned me into an anal addict!!

On the flipside, he also enjoys anal play. At first I went along with it because I knew he enjoyed it, and I enjoyed seeing him satisfied. But over time, that too has become a big turn-on for me. I really enjoy using a dildo on him (and have been fantasizing about getting a strap-on). I also love having my fingers (or more ) in there. Talk about intimacy!!!

****Done that once or twice myself. (After a good long shower together, as an appetizer [pun intended])

Another question (since they're free ) - Do you (or any switches out there) find that playing one role vs the other brings out "untapped" parts of your character? For example, are you mild-mannered, but find that playing the dominant allows you to express a side of yourself that gets repressed?

****Funny you should ask. I became a switch out of curiosity; most of my leanings were sub until my partner needed a Dom and I was handy. So to speak. Brought out the strong feelings of THAT role for me, and for my partner. She enjoys her Domme times now as much as I do. And yes, I have always been mild-mannered. A gentle man, as I am described by my partner. I guess it has inhibited others from being interested in O/L play; I've tried unsuccessfully to find someone for such.

(Maybe I'm asking an unclear question.......)

****Nah. Clear as glass.