Thanks chksng19. I actually had a very similar experience as your s/o. I was never a fan of anal. In hindsight (no pun intended), my only experience with it was clumsy half-drunk guys, little to no lube, and no warm-up whatsoever. When I met my guy 3 years ago, he said that anal was one of his favorite things. I cringed. He encouraged me to try. He went VERY slowly, used lots and lots of lube, used his fingers to help loosen me up, and never pushed until I was ready. WOW!!! What a difference! Now it's MY favorite thing. We often joke that he turned me into an anal addict!!

On the flipside, he also enjoys anal play. At first I went along with it because I knew he enjoyed it, and I enjoyed seeing him satisfied. But over time, that too has become a big turn-on for me. I really enjoy using a dildo on him (and have been fantasizing about getting a strap-on). I also love having my fingers (or more ) in there. Talk about intimacy!!!

Another question (since they're free ) - Do you (or any switches out there) find that playing one role vs the other brings out "untapped" parts of your character? For example, are you mild-mannered, but find that playing the dominant allows you to express a side of yourself that gets repressed? (Maybe I'm asking an unclear question.......)