Quote Originally Posted by spike
I'm going to join TG and flicka on this. We don't need real names, but a way of naming the various people involved and an idea of who did what to whom and what the relationships and agreements between them were would be best.

Talking about your own feelings is good, and it has obviously helped some, but outsiders need to know more details of the real stuff you reacted to. This isn't out of any attempt to breach people's privacy, but just so we can understand to offer any advice we might have.

I've found that people misunderstand my own concerns where I don't explain exactly what I was concerned about.

Spike
The person that I keep refering to was a friend at the time, the person who topped them at the party was one of our local group leaders. I do not know the specifics of any agreements that were made, wasn't part of negotiation, but I know they set limits and set a safeword. If you need a way of refering to them just call them top and bottom, that way there is a differentiation there.

I hope I answered everyone's questions. If I didn't I can try again later.

-Sullied