Look, I'm going to be harsh. Nobody wants to play with you because you will not explain what you are looking for. If you want to play on IM, you are going to have to use words, exchange information and ideas. As it stands, we have had to poke and poke to get you to reveal the smallest details of your fantasy. It is frustrating, and does not make you seem like a good candidate for an online tryst.
I am getting annoyed at you, and I am very turned off by your fantasy. Imagine, then, how frustrating it would be for someone who is interested but cannot get you to explain further! I can almost garuantee you are not going to find someone to play with if you continue like this.