Originally posted by Jones, Nikka
I was reading the newest comments in the thread about abuse and bdsm and I wondered if people who engage in corporal punishment as a part of their D/s bdsm lifestyle are less likely to physically punish their children. I have no idea because all the people I know in the lifestyle are childless. Also, the consensus in that thread seems to be that abuse during childhood is not a determinating factor in becoming attracted to D/s bdsm. Could bdsm, however, be a factor in preventing abuse?
My daughters are ages 8, 13, and soon-to-be-15. Discipline is not a big issue; we've raised them to be iconclasts like their parents, so we avoided many of the usual parent-child conflicts.

When they do screw up, the worst punishment is taking away computer time. When one daughter forged a report card, I deleted all her Diablo 2 characters; that had more influence than any swat on the butt.

I suspect most people here would say that BDSM practiced by an angry dom is abuse -- the dom is meeting their own need for retribution, at the expense of the sub.

Corporal punishment is more about releasing the parent's anger than it is about disciplining a child. I have smacked my kids on the but a few times, to emphasize a [point -- but I've found far more effective methods that teach lessons (don't waste time on games when you should be studying.)