I'm assuming you've let him know how you feel. If you haven't--gotta do that first. If you have talked with him and he remains hesitant, I'm guessing you haven't been in a relationship with him that long. It's tough to gage when you might be hurting somebody until you learn their tolerance thresholds. Suggest communicating with him in and out of your sub role--leting him know what feels good and what doesn't.

Originally posted by Kelli
I have a wonderful bf, and he tries to be my dom, but he is more of a teddy bear... He sometimes gets in these moods and he is fantastic! Any idea of what I can do to bring that out more? It only seems to be when he is frustrated about something. Any other sub have trouble with this?