Originally posted by jazz
i personally don't think You are less than mainstream, Shadoom, let's face it, this is on some level a sexual activity, whether it is a cerebral sexual experience or a physical one. If this were not a sexual issue, we would not be listed in ADULT forums. We could discuss serving your dominant tea in the earshot of children.
BDSM movies have always confused my wife, given the general lack of sex involved.

Simply getting tied up gets my wife bothered, but not hot. She finds no satisfaction in being tied up for "no reason" -- but she creams like a dairy farm when sex is involved. It doesn't even need to be coitus; I can masterbate her, or molest her tits, or tickle her, and she experiences incredible pleasure. While she *does* enjoy normal sex, she only comes hard (and often) when restrained and tortured.

From what I read here, it seems that many people find gratification in the ropes and pain alone. Which may explain (in addition to evarious smut laws) why the majority of videos focus on the bondage without any sex.

Fascinating, as Mr. Spock would say.