Sex is essential to me in my BDSM relationships. I always state that BDSM is a 3-legged creature and its legs are Pain, Humiliation and Sexual use. The percentages of these three ingredients may vary according to the peolpe involved and the circumstances, but I would not like any of the 3 to be missing.

Most of my BDSM relations started with sex, while humiliation and pain came later and were increased more and more progressively.

My idea of a slave is in primis a sexual object .... caroline was used by me and my friends, was offered and rented and had been trained to give maximum sexual pleasure in any way requested by males or females, with consumed technical ability and the utmost passion and partecipation.

She had learned that she had no right over her own body, no right to modesty, no right to refuse anything ... she would have stripped naked in any place she was asked to do it ... the consideration about safety and opportunity was entirely left to me, her master or to her temporary owners, when she was rented or lent.

I always told her that her only right was to get pleasure from time to time .... not always.

She mostly was used sexually used after or during torture sessions, but we also had guests that were not interested in sex (intended as sexual acts) and in these cases she just endured long torture sessions without sexual release ... but those have been exceptions.

I also was very careful never to let her notice if I had to ask some guest to be more attentive or to reduce the strenght while whipping her. I wanted her to remain in the believe that she was used without any consideration (which was not true)

I agree that love is otpional ... but adds very much to the whole