ISO Suggestions for Play While Trying to Conceive...

[a_curious_poet]

Greetings A/all...

This is my first post besides my introductory post.

My wife (of 2 years) and I are about to start a family. Therefore, we are trying to conceive a child.

While attempting this task, that means lots of sexual play is ahead.

While I have quite the years of experience with BDSM, my wife is a newbie. As I might introduce a few aspects of BDSM to my wife as we play daily...I was looking for suggestions.

I know there are some creative people on this forum, so ANY type of suggestion is encouraged.

Thank you.

[oneslave4me]

The first year is the fun one. Then they get ugly with surgeries, poking, prodding, drugs, self-administered shots, and generally take all the joy out of conceiving. Though since DH offered up his boys for general surgery and had them swell to the size of grapefruits, he does have my undying love and devotion. He definitely took one for the cause.

Usually the first couple months, just enjoy it. Make sure your stuff gets in the appropriate hole. That's a tough one for us. We like alternative areas for that and/or I just love to watch it. Later we found out the swimmers just aren't there, so we stopped worrying about it.

You can have some fun learning to check her cervical mucus/cervical position. The egg white consistency stuff is the "hey, I'm fertile" sign. Cervical position is where the cervix gets high and open to let the swimmers through. Also, charting her basal body temperature can be fun for a while. www.tcoyf.com has the play by play on all of that.

There's some good scenes you can do if you're the sub and she's the dom since she can be aggressive and "use" you as the sperm donor. Dress as a nurse and take the semen sample vaginally, go praying mantis on you and threaten whatever snuff turns you on after she gets her sample, etc.

I'd lay off the CBT and hot tubs and cut back on smoking if you smoke, but the avoiding tighty whiteys, all caffeine and hot baths are myths. And while the every day, twice a day sex is fun, every other day can be better because it gives the swimmers(and each other) time to recover.

The main thing to remember is it can take a normal couple under 35 one year to conceive, but many conceive in the first 3 months. If it takes more than one year or more than 6 months if the woman is over 35, then you should see a fertility doctor and let the poking and prodding begin.

Have a great time, good luck and baby dust,

EAB

[a_curious_poet]

@EAB

Thanks for the wonderful suggestions and comments. This is a great "welcoming mat" for someone new to this forum.

She is 24 and I'll be 30 in September. We've been together since 2000, but married since 2003.

Within the last few months is when we've been toying around the idea of having a baby.

The suggestions were great. Anyone else have an idea of how to incorporate BDSM play into our multiple sexual experiences every few days?

The nurse idea is cute, I'll have to run that by her.

[oneslave4me]

I thought you were looking more for scene ideas to tie into TTC.

Well, to work it into your playtime, start slowly with your basic toys. Do LOTS of talking. I can tell you from experience as a newbie with an experienced(in fantasy) DH, we screwed up a lot in the beginning. I didn't really understand that BDSM enhances his love for me and gives me power. I thought it was because I was lacking something and he needed it to be turned on by me. Now that I "get it", it's a lot better, but we wasted years and had a lot of hurt feelings that can interfere with playtime still.

Does she look at porn, pics, stories, etc? I also got a lot out of reading books on the topic. They especially helped me to "get it". We have a lot of fun looking at the computer and talking about what we see, either individually or together.

good luck

[a_curious_poet]

Thanks again for the input.

We/we had a little fun tonight actually.

This morning, I sent her an email telling her I wanted her to do a few things when arriving home from work.

She was to strip naked, apply cuffs in the front, apply some old collar we had, gag herself with pair of panties wet from her own juices, lay spread eagle on bed and await my arrival home from work.

It was quite arousing to think about it all night of what I had waiting on me at home. To say the least, we had amazing sex this evening.

[a_curious_poet]

FYI - things seem to be going well. Thanks for everyone's comments and such.