To set the record straight

[sirken]

I came to this site to find a sub and to share my stories with like minded people, I found friendship here with A/all, was approached by two ladies one sub and one not sure new to lifestyle,Was informed learningtopleez was interested in Me as Dom, and also the other was interested as one writer to another, communicated with both, told the other would help by being mentor answering questions so she could decide her role in lifestyle, send numerous writings back and forth, at the same time was getting to know ltp , on the night before I was accussed of having a stable I formally took ltp as Mine, at no time did I ask the other to wear my collar, had big project that day so couldnt get back online, read email off site saying should come to site two subs fighting over Dom thought I may enjoy reading, paid no attention to it,
that was my only mistake should have come to site, as I was the Dom in question, I bear no ill will toward the other sub as she is new to lifestyle and just assumed she was mine, But for the record so A/all may know learningtopleez is the only sub, I collared, her only fault was coming to you and not to Me, as you will see by her profile she still wears My collar proudly, and she will be punished for not asking Me instead of others as is My right as her Master

[Darkgirl]

It is probably not my place to say anything but I can feel a certain resemblemence to myself. Not being used to BDSM and only just starting off with my husband SIR I can only say that I'm very lucky to be introducing BDSM into your lives.
But for someone who has an overwelming urge of need to be a sub, you 'may' have given her the opportunity to feel wanted. Not blaming anyone as sometimes emotions can make decisions rather than actual thought. It will take time but I agree that you have to take a stand now rather than later.

Is there anyway that you could have 2 subs. It may be more work involved but this could also be an advantage for all three. They could both prove their loyalty to you as afterall it is an online thing but are you looking further on than that?

It is only a thought so please don't take this the wrong way. I just know how strong the feeling is to be a sub.

[e.b.]

that was my only mistake should have come to site, as I was the Dom in question, I bear no ill will toward the other sub as she is new to lifestyle and just assumed she was mine, But for the record so A/all may know learningtopleez is the only sub, I collared, her only fault was coming to you and not to Me, as you will see by her profile she still wears My collar proudly, and she will be punished for not asking Me instead of others as is My right as her Master

Excuse me, but what I take from this post is that you are not happy with a sub (LTP) for having friends in the lifestyle that she trusts more than some "dom" she just met. Well, hello, any dom with any sense of common courtesy would understand that, especially if the dom in question cannot be reached, for whatever reason, a sub is going to go to people she trusts (that she's known longer than you) for guidance. IMO punishing that is not acceptable, especially considering it sounds like the whole misunderstanding occurred b/c you were not as honest and forthcoming, or as clear about rules and boundaries, as I would expect a quality dom to be.

LTP is an excellent sub, btw, and I have no question in my mind that she would have approached you first if she'd felt a sense of mutual respect and comfort with you. Perhaps you should consider acquiring other attributes such as honesty, respectfulness, and compassion to add to your profile of "strong, tall dom".

In other words, don't fuck with my friends and fellow subs. Especially when I have absolutely nothing to lose by calling you on it at this site. Punishment should be between dom and sub, not broadcast to the world.

eb

[Darkgirl]

Maybe I should'nt have answered to this thread with the previous post. I really don't know what went on between the three of you but it could become a dangerouse game if someone gets hurt.

As e.b. has mentioned it should be sorted out by yourself and those involved and not publicly as has been done. If you want advice then PM-ing someone that you can trust would be far more subtle.

I also think the same as e.b. now that she has put it to my attention that 'honesty' may not have played it's part.

I hope this does get sorted out quickly as I would not like anyone here to get hurt, least of all people that I call 'freinds'.

[sirken]

I have read what was said in forums before,about Me, only I ltp and the other know whole truth, and as for public admonishment of ltp she agreed so if you wish to question My motives, honesty, or compassion and you say you are friend to her then ask her, as to other question will it lead to r/l noone knows that only time and growing will tell

[Darkgirl]

It is not for me to ask questions as such. If this thread had not been posted then the question of 'why?' would not have appeared. To 'set a record straight' means that something has been said, but what? I haven't seen or heard anything and I still think that those who don't know anything should not have known anything (probably including myself).

I regard everyone here as a 'friend' because if I hadn't come here I would not be leading such a wonderful and closer life with my husband, 'SIR'.

To me this site is my new family and I enjoy every minute, as does SIR, on here. I learn something every day by such brave and wonderful people who give soo much to this site.

If I am supposed to 'know' something then it would be by those people at hand and not for me to find out. What you have posted may be with consent but it should still have been a private thing between yourselves as this could damage this other person. Sometimes it just takes a little understanding and communication which 'may' not have happened here.

Again, I really do hope that this matter is resolved fast without anyone getting hurt as you are 'all' my freinds.

[Locked Advantages]

i know that I don't know much about the situation but I hope everything ends up coming out okay for both of you

[Jadetiger]

I have read what was said in forums before,about Me, only I ltp and the other know whole truth, and as for public admonishment of ltp she agreed so if you wish to question My motives, honesty, or compassion and you say you are friend to her then ask her, as to other question will it lead to r/l noone knows that only time and growing will tell

SirKen,
Your need to publicly admonish your sub is all I need to gauge your motives, honesty, or compassion. The fact that you apparently did not feel the need to get the other person's permission regarding this post also reflects on your character as well. Sometimes taking the blame and apologizing for a misunderstanding is the manly thing to do. Since you are an experimented Dom I believe that is how we expected you to react and to handle the situation in a polite way. As far as this sub bickering you are referring to please point us to the posts. I never saw anything like this regarding you.

[alura]

Whatever the situation, it's just so much water under the bridge. Though all of your protective instincts, amazing, beautiful and tender; showing your love and appreciation for LTP, are amazing and valued by LTP in so many ways, (and I hope someday to earn those same things for myself), as it is, we are now, despite all words that we might speak, no longer in control of the situation. They have to (Sir Ken and LTP) work these things out for themselves. If it's meant to be? They'll manage. If not, they won't.
I'm sure she can fight her own battles.
THE PAST IS JUST THAT....The Past.
My personal judgement is to let it lie.
All we are doing is causing more strife between the two of them and that's not a good thing.
Feel free to beat on me, publicly or otherwise, but I can't help how I feel.

SirKen,
Your need to publicly admonish your sub is all I need to gauge your motives, honesty, or compassion. The fact that you apparently did not feel the need to get the other person's permission regarding this post also reflects on your character as well. Sometimes taking the blame and apologizing for a misunderstanding is the manly thing to do. Since you are an experimented Dom I believe that is how we expected you to react and to handle the situation in a polite way. As far as this sub bickering you are referring to please point us to the posts. I never saw anything like this regarding you.

[Caitlin]

read email off site saying should come to site two subs fighting over Dom thought I may enjoy reading

Sirken,this apparent bickering went over my head, and I wouldn't have known about it, except I do now because you posted this thread.

But for the record so A/all may know learningtopleez is the only sub, I collared, her only fault was coming to you and not to Me, as you will see by her profile she still wears My collar proudly, and she will be punished for not asking Me instead of others as is My right as her Master

You yourself said you wern't available when this argument started. ltp couldn't get in touch with you and needed to talk to someone. I find it a bit unsettling to me when a man needs to punish a woman when she turns to her friends / support system for either advice or just a chat about something.