22f sub seeking mistress for online/ rl potential

hello. I am a sub from central NY. I am looking for a mistress for some online play. I am interested in orgasm control, pain and mild humiliation. I am in a committed relationship with a man (which is why a female is needed). We have discussed potential of having another woman join (where rl can come in potentially) I'd like to leave him out of most of this setup, but I am willing/interested in incorporating our relationship with tasking. I am willing to write/ blog. I have yahoo msg/skype.