Other?

I am 5'8" 165lb br/br 59. I am excited by being tied up, mild cbt and nipple torture among others but I am not into slaving, humiliation, bootlicking, etc. While exciting someone else can be a real turn on, that's not everything for me. I like the idea of feeling the effects of the torture the next day. I often tie myself up for masturbation and use a dildo and occasionally electro but it's hard by myself. I've considered building a machine with a mind of its own. There's added excitement to someone else at the controls. Is there a name for this role so I can advertise more easily? I don't want to disappoint. Thanks.