The main motto in this lifestyle is “safe, sane and consensual!”

There is more than one place and at least one tread like this that deals with different ways and options for denuding your neither area.

Most of us would love to be in the situation where you are compelled and able to do things that are ordered without regard to consequences, but…

There is difference in hurting someone cause it is part of play and in the end it will be enjoyed by both, and harming someone and endangering their health and possibly endangering their job or social life.

You need to sit down and talk to your partner (notice I’m not saying Dom here – and that is on purpose – cause you have to talk as equal!) and discuss all the aspects of his wish. You have to find the way of settling on the common ground, find things acceptable for both of you – because just like in any other relationship (vanilla or even business) things HAVE to work for both parties. If they don’t – than it is not good.

If he can not work with you to find the way around this – I know that if I was in your shoes – I would walk away!

You can find abusive people at any corner. BDSM relationship is something completely different.