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I saw these 2 questions on another site would love to hear what your opinions are on these
TEARS OF A MASTER/DOM/DOMME
TO ALL MASTERS/DOMS/DOMMES Have you ever shed tears in front of your sub/slave? How did it make you feel?
When I first met Taffi my ex-slave in 3D, after weeks of online exploration, it was only a few months after my wife had died. (I really wasn't in any shape to be looking for a new relationship, but that's another issue.) And in the middle of a long talk on a Master-slave level, something we said pushed the wrong button and I broke down and howled. She was there right away to hold me and hug me till I was cried out: then she backed up and switched back to respectful-slave mode. That was when I knew I wanted to keep her.

Second question
A GIFT
Some see submission as a gift? How do you see it?
This is one of the sayings that's been around the community as long as I have. I think it was originally a reply to the world-view that saw everything as the Dom's doing, finding hapless little subbies who had no idea what they needed, bringing out their submissive nature by the Dom's wonderful power and charisma, and teaching them to be happy slaves wholly dependent on their Master. (As you might expect, this usually came from maleDoms.) The view of submission as the slave's gift to the Master/Mistress was an attempt to balance things.

My own view is that any relationship is a mutual gift-giving. For me, the most important meaning of this phrase is the corollary that one can't become a sub, any more than a Dom, from a position of weakness. You can't give yourself if you don't own yourself.