Quote Originally Posted by bambina View Post
Snowflake

No I can't say BDSM turns me on. I get excited. I get the feelings you get right before you go on a roller coaster. That anxious feeling while I fantasize about rape and such. But no, I am not turned on by any of it. I don't get wet and I've never orgasmed from thoughts of bdsm. BDSM is fun. Not a turn on.

So now I'm worried. Maybe I am just one of those people who likes kinky things in the bedroom and nothing more. Perhaps I'm not hardcore enough to be part of this community. Say it aint so. I hope that's not the case. But, then again, it's too early to decide. I hardly have any experience.

Edit: And no I'm not MIssconfused. I'm sure lots of women fantasize while masturbating. I'm just one who HAS to fantasize in order to orgasm.
Hun if you are just learning.. what is to say that maybe that bit of excitement will not flourish as you do in the BDSM world?

The expectation and the anticipation can and will grow if allowed leading to more feelings towards the whole situation..

Just as a flower grows you are still a bud on a tiny stem that has not yet seen or shown your full potential.. enjoy what you have and allow yourself to grow before making any harsh judgement of whether you belong or not... you might find you bloom into a beautiful flower...

We all started off just as you... either as kids and fantasies... or as young adults still exploring for the first times...Not Belong..?? i dare say this is the best place to be .. to learn more and try and find yourself if this is something that even gives you the slightest little twinge of excitement... as you will find some of us maybe a bit more experienced then you ..but are more then willing to share that with you to help you grow and learn other ways you may enjoy it .. There is so much to this life.. it is not all about taking a punishment enjoying spanking or even rough play.. it can be sensual as well hun...

Many enjoy being tied down, teased and tantalized .. others like to be told what to do .. others enjoy pleasing their Master.. and the list goes on ..

So if you find interests at all even if it is bedroom enjoyment ...then i can honestly say this is the place to be... Even if it is just to find new ways to make it more interesting in the bedroom.. and hun i wasn't a 24-7 sub through the whole 25 yrs i have been a sub ... it started off slow just like you and grew... So don't be hard on yourself ..take your time... ask questions and learn from it ..but most of all enjoy what you do no matter what part you do...

Just my opinion again hun

hugs snow