Actually, I am quite enjoying the philosophical spin of this thread! Tae'lyn really hits on a good point in discussing those "gray area activities" and her experiences with them. I think in some ways, the art of being a good dom/me lies within his or her ability to work within those "gray areas" and use her creativity and thoughtfulness to create an activity that allows her sub to move past such boundaries at a safe and comfortable pace.

It could be, as Tae'lyn mentions, that these stem from underlying desires or needs. I tend to think that this is the case in a great deal of scenarios. And of course, the ulimate reward is knowing that you have pleased your dom/me.

Psychology will tell us that none of us does anything that he or she on some level does not really want to do. Learning what truly motivates each of us is the beautifully, complex and unique aspect that makes it even more delicious!

Great thread everyone!

Giana

Quote Originally Posted by Tae'lyn
This thread got me thinking about what really motivates either of us into our likes and dislikes. I believe many of my gray area type activities have become serious turn ons. My dom has slowly brought out those needs or desires, like someone testing the waters to see what would be a turn on. But were these underlying, just waiting to be brought out? Or are they are turn on for me, because it pleases him?

What I found myself wondering was, how does he feel about these activities? Perhaps it is he that participates in them, not for his pleasure necessarily, but for the pleasure in knowing what it does to me.

Course does it really matter at all? Especially if we are enjoying each other?

Sorry for sounding philosophical, just pondering our reasons behind it all

Tae'lyn