Quote Originally Posted by submissivewife
Some of you might find this hard to beleive, since I am such a good girl here at the forums , but there has been a time or two where I have been punished. Now, I hate being punished. I feel awful, distrout, and sometimes sick over my actions. During these times, I find I need to do something to "make up" for my mistake(s)/transgression(s); only I don't know what.

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Subs:

What do you do when you feel you need to "make up" for being bad?
I am not sure that I have ever felt the need to 'make up' for being bad. Perhaps this is because beyond an acknowledgement that I have done something which displeases him, and an undertaking to endeavour not to repeat it, there is nothing I can do.

When he chooses to punish me, the key is always time out by myself to consider what I have done. This is always preceded by a discussion to ensure that we both understand and agree the issue. Considering his displeasure even for a short time cuts deep, and I have never repeated something I have been punished for.

Aftercare is vital, both to restore my self esteem and to ensure that the relationship is not damaged.

cariad