I'm the opposite of WingsofanAngel -- sensory deprivation is high on my list of likes, but then I'm more into bondage than D/s or SM, so that might be why.

I guess that as long as there's some balace between what's pleasurable for me and for my husband and neither of us feels compelled to do something we truly don't want to do, then we're doing well. The trick is making sure that something one person finds pleasurable but the other doesn't isn't so distasteful that the second person can't enjoy the first person's pleasure.