Another Jerzey girl here. It started young for me, teen years probably. I got hooked on nifty.org and clicked the bdsm link just to see what the stories were like. many years, and much story-induced self gratification later, i'm here and coming into my own as a sub. It's a learning process for both my girlfriend and I, since she hadn't the identification with being a Domme like I do with being a sub. We're now happily working on experimenting and while still vanilla in some aspects, it's coming along nicely.

I know that childhood and things that have happened to me play a large role in this for me. Part of it is that in being a sub, I'm not a victim anymore. I know to the common person it seems that that is exactly what a sub is, but really it's not. My Domme takes care of me, listens when safety becomes an issue, and is diligent in seeing to the proper after-care. Being a sub has allowed me to feel powerful in a role that was once forced upon me. It's part of who i am, and what i choose to be. And for me, it's a welcome relief. I'm a teacher and thus spend most of my day in a more "dominant" position. it's nice to come home and not have to be the know-all-be-all figure.

and sometimes teachers need time-out too. :-D