Quote Originally Posted by Silke

What I'm aiming at with my question is NOT those hard limits/definite kinks, but more the soft limits or the grey area between those and the hotties. Whenever I get questions about those, I just don't know what to say. Yes, some of those activities do get me aroused, but is it because I like it or because I know it pleases my Dom, gets him hot? Does it matter at all? *giggles* Or am I just making something out of nothing? lol.

If you are in a relationship of any sort the other person's reaction is crucial, and cannot image many things exciting me much as a solo activity.

My arousal for any activity is something like (my own interest in the activity) x 2(my partner's interest in it). If either are zero then forget it, if both are high then ....YIPPPEEEEEEE!

Although just to make the maths slightly more complex - and am too distracted now by thoughts of sensory deprivation to work out the equation - over a period of time having a great time with one particular activity will effect my own interest level so there is scope of for an exponentially orgasmic curve!

cariad