Well said, Her_Joe.

For me, its all about the forgiveness. My partner forgiving me and me forgiving yourself.

I like my sub to tell me what he did that upset me, and let me know that it's something he doesn't want to repeat.

I do the same for my T.

The "making up" is more about letting it go.
Not bringing up something that didn't please me
or not saying sorry repeatedly once it done and over with. If he's already been forgiven, then that just keeps opening it up and making us relive it, like pouring salt into the wound.

Great suggestions, WingsofanAngel, for doing something unexpected that would please your partner.

I'd like to think my sub was doing those things not because he's upset me, but because he just wants to please me.