Yeah, I know what you mean, arwcuw...been there, too. And yes, for 'normal' sexy stuff it's been like that for me also. It's the new things...stuff I haven't tried before that I find hard to place. And yeah, you might have a point there that the new things I try are considerably influenced by what my partner likes. Maybe that isn't even that much of an issue...*ponders*. Food for thought...