My family doesn't know, even though my mother sees my collar every day. She believes that it is just a choker, as and as fas as I'm concerned, that's all she needs to know. My brother doesn't know what I do, but then again we barely speak to one another, so I'm certainly not going to discuss my sex life with him.

A couple of my friends know that I am a sub, though they don't know the details of my lifestyle. I have been opening up more and more to my best friend, whom I have known for over 25 years. She has recently discovered her kinky side, so we do talk about it (through e-mail, since she lives about three hours away).

I believe that my lifestyle is my business, so I don't openly discuss it with people, except among other kinky people, of course. But I have always been a pretty private person and don't openly advertize myself as kinky (or Pagan, which I am as well).