My sister knows, as we have gone toy shopping together. I have never had the discussion with my parents, though. A lot of my friends know, as I write about alternative sexualities in my nonerotic stories and I'm a bit of a feedback whore.

I have some of my BDSM stories posted on my personal website, so if my parents went there, they would see them. If the need arose, I would tell them.

I am not willing to hide who I am from anyone. And by need, I mean someone bad mouthing or making other statements about the perversion of D/s. That's how I came out as a lesbian to the extended family and random strangers--I was not willing to be quiet when derogatory things were said about dykes and faggots. The same goes for talk of Dom/me's being abusers and subbies being brainless puppets.

I did bring one girlfriend home who I was Topping and my father's only comment was how very respectful and polite she seemed. That's all that matters to Southerners.