I didn't have a problem with the marriage thing what did bug me were these questions.

How often are you sexually dominant (in your fantasies as well as your real time experiences)?

How often are you sexually submissive (in your fantasies as well as your real time experiences)?

How often are you sexually masochistic (in your fantasies as well as your real time experiences)?

How often are you sexually sadistic (in your fantasies as well as your real time experiences)?

Why? Because what I fantasize about and what I do are often two completely different things. I felt I couldn't accurately answer the questions with in the confines.

For instance I am sexually dominant in RL at least 50% of the time or more but in my fantasies I am almost never sexually dominant.

I have a husband who is not comfortable being sexually dominant, so we switch off a lot. Plus I've always been the organizer about everything. If it were left up to him we'd have a lot less sex and doing a lot less new or different things. That would be because he simply wouldn't bother to put the effort into it to come up with the things I do.

So I felt restricted by these questions.

I wonder how many others have fantasies that do not match what they do in RL. A good many I'd wager. In fact, IMHO most fantasies should remain just that and never be turned into reality. That's a concept many do not understand.

The other thing I noticed was that there was a lot of dancing around consent and non consent. As if the person who made up the survey expects to find that more ladies who are into BDSM have had problems in this area than the 'nilla ladies.

I knew very few woman that haven't experienced some problems with force in either world. I don't think there is any correlation at all. If the data were truly out there and compared I believe it would be about the same for both groups.

You don't get forced because of your BDSM orientation. An orientation that I believe you are born with not "nurtured" into. You get forced because some ass wipe sees you as vulnerable. Most ladies are pretty vulnerable because society keeps telling us to be "nice and caring," all the time.

Anyway I am interested in seeing the results.

Please do let us know, even if you come up with a conclusion you suspect we won't like.

Thanks,

Fury